📻 — If You Really Knew Me…

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Hey yenizens (all citizens of the yeniverse)!

A simple activity to try and a few links — just enough and then back to managing the “fight” that just broke out in your community…


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To infinity & community,

— john

#TryThis: “If You Really Knew Me…”

I’m fortunate to be taking a live course on Emotional Intelligence (with the author of the original term Daniel Goleman! ) and and one activity that I experienced during the very first Zoom hangout was called “If you really knew me…”

It was one of the best, large-gathering icebreaker that I have experienced this year and I had to share it with you:

How to Play:

  1. Taking turns, each person shares for 1 minute while the rest of the group actively listens.

  2. Each person finishes off the sentence: “If you really knew me, you would know that…

  3. Each person has 30 seconds to respond in the chat box: “When I heard you say ‘…’ I felt…

Repeat this until everyone has gone.

For starters, this unlocks and reveals incredibly insights about each person from the very start of the event or hangout! Let me know if you try this for your next event and let me know how it goes!

The leader of the group then provided a copy of the text-responses post-event and it was so encouraging to read what folks thought about what I shared as well as it provided an opportunity to refresh some key facts about folks that I hadn’t quite digested fully.

Obviously, this probably wouldn’t scale outside of a group larger than 15+, but, for hangouts < 15, it’s going to become a go-to exercise for events that I host and lead.

A Few Links To Check Out:

A few mental models made in Notion:

Tidze is a new, customizable virtual event platform:

Clubhouse has open-sourced its community guidelines:

Finally, Erin Moon built a thriving community around her newsletter and here are the key takeaways:

  • Survey your audience. If you don’t know who your readers are, reach out to them and ask!

  • Encourage conversation. Start discussions with your readers and keep the conversation going.

  • Let your community shine. Step back and let your readers take center stage.

  • Be vulnerable with your readers. Show authenticity, even when you make mistakes.

Full video here: