📻 — The Litmus Test for Healthy Community: A Place You Can Always Come Back

This is your Community, Daily.

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Good morning my friends and yenizens!

I’m taking a half-day today and Friday! If this ends up being useful I might make it a “thing” — who knows.

Hope you had a restful weekend! Some links from around the interwebs:

  1. The internet rewards this. Marc and Ben. SaaS management.

  2. It’s about the long-game. Break it down. Bezos lettersShoutouts.

  3. Acast raises. Podimo raises. Employees, time offPapercups.

  4. Technical interviews. Make meetings great againRevOpsStockx.

  5. Quizzes, forms, nocode. Product design interviews. 3D textures!

  6. All tests passed. Find meaning. Windows 3.0. Short, fat, fingers.

  7. Measuring is hard. Ask questions as a leader. What’s working.

  8. Not moving to Spain. Simple biz toolsBurnLinkedInChemo.

  9. Foldable words. NYT subscription. User management. Typi

  10. Smallest Kanban board ever, open source! How they SRE.

To infinity & community,

— john

The wonderful thing about the internet is that you don’t have to always be around your friends and engaging with them all the time — I believe this is an intrinsic benefit of the internet where you can have many more friends in many more communities than you could if you were just doing it IRL-only.

For instance, the fact that I can take long and extended breaks from a variety of communities is a feature, not a bug when it comes to real, authentic, and healthy community (and relationships).

For instance, I took a 5-6 month break as things got very busy around the startup and I needed to take a big step back from a very fun game that I play competitively. I was also, in a few brief moments, a globally top-ranked player and so I had a bit of name recognition.

Consequently, my sudden disappearance — I quit cold-turkey and didn’t tell anyone — was noticed, especially by a handful of friends that I played with on-the-regular. So, when I suddenly appeared back on in-game and I was greeted by kind words and real heart-felt sentiments:


Apparently — I had never known this and they had never told me! — I was one of their “oldest friends” in the game and larger community. I won’t lie, that kind of hit me hard; like deep, gut-level type of shit where your pulse quickens and things start tasting a bit more salty in your mouth.

I missed my friends and I missed playing with them! I had a full roster of friends when I left and only 2 of them kept me as a “in-game friend” when I returned. This didn’t hurt my feelings as it took just a few days to start building the friendlist back up when word got out that I was back.

And that’s the point: Real, authentic, healthy community means that you can always come back. There’s always a spot for you at the table. And, in our small (but growing) community — The YENIVERSE — we think that way too.

Sure, you may have had to “duck out” for a while to deal with life stuff; totally get it! Communities — just like relationships — aren’t perfect systems; they are human-based, people-centric, and as a natural result they are always flawed, imperfect, and wildly-unpredictable.

But that’s what makes communities (and the most-fun and interesting relationships that we keep!) magical and that X-Factor is ultimately what makes them effective as tools for growth and development.

Healthy communities are places where you know you belong, even if it’s been a “hot minute”. You can always jump back in, where ever you left off, team up once again so that you can kick some serious ass.

Here's a thought yenizens: Build a community and a culture that is safe / "default" enough so that your members can "leave" or even "ghost" without (cultural) penalty; create a space where folks can come back anytime.